Is it just me, or does everything seem so divided these days? You're either left or right wing, a Ford or a Chevy person. You're either a Patriots fan or you're right. All jokes aside, we as a society are losing our ability to be open-minded, and let's face it, most things land somewhere in the middle of all the extremes. Here are 3 ways we can better come together, and be more tolerant of others opinions.
1. TRY HONESTLY TO SEE THINGS FROM THE OTHER PERSON'S POINT OF VIEW.
"If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person's point of view and see things from that person's angle as well as from your own" ~ Henry Ford
Arguing will never change your opponent's opinion. You may come out with a feeling of triumph, but the other person will be that much more convinced that they are right, and will most likely harbor resentment for you. If you disagree with someone, first sincerely try to see things from their point of view. Everybody has a reason for feeling the way they do, and if you honestly try to see things from the other person's perspective, they will be much more open to listening to your reasoning for feeling the way you do.
2. SWALLOW YOUR PRIDE. NO MATTER HOW HARD IT MAY BE.
"If you can't swallow your pride, you can't lead. Even the highest mountain had animals that step on it." ~ Jack Weatherford
Our pride will often make an ass of us. Imagine you are in a heated debate and the person you're arguing with makes a point you agree with. Do we stop and admit that they made a great point? In the heat of battle!? Forget it. Often, we become reactive when in a disagreement to the point we stop listening. Those who are humble have a much stronger connection to those around them. Put your pride aside, and watch how much easier it is to come together. Simple phrases like, "I may be wrong, I often am" have a strong effect on people. Humility is rare, so when shown, it catches others off guard.
3. LET OTHER'S KNOW THEY ARE LOVED.
"Not only do self-love and love of others go hand in hand but ultimately they are indistinguishable." ~ M Scott Peck
Giving sincere and honest appreciation to those you care about can only brighten days and bring out smiles. Why hold back? In the words of Dale Carnegie, "Be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise". Not only will this make you well liked, it can only bring joy, and that can only bring us all together!